Yesterday I went to my friends wedding. It was 8 hours from where I live so it wasn’t easy getting there, but we made it. She asked if Ellie (my 2 year old) would be her flower girl. Though the bride and I hadn’t talked much in a couple years, I knew that asking Ellie to be in the wedding was a way of including me. I couldn’t help but think of all the wonderful times we had together. Even the times when we would talk about her future wedding, and how all her friends at the time would be in it. None of those friends, except me were even invited. Weddings are a time to reflect. Thinking about our relationship with the bride or groom, how much has changed and how quickly these moments go by. During the rehearsal I met the groom. She introduced me as a “friend from college” which is accurate, but I wondered when I had just become a friend from college to her now husband. How quickly things change.
I don’t know anything about marriage or being a bride, but I do know how valuable true friendship is. There were multiple times when I realized that it didn’t really make sense for me to go to this wedding. I didn’t have the money, a way to get there and I was so sure that Ellie wouldn’t walk down the aisle. Even on our way there my friend who drove me almost turned around because she wasn’t feeling well. Things were stacked against me making it, but I am so grateful that I did. The bride was a friend who never judged me throughout my crazy days, and was always there to listen when I needed her. The least I could do was be there for her on her wedding day.
This weekend ended up being worth all the trouble, but it also gave me a chance to reflect on a lot of things. What kind of friends do I want in my life, and what kind of friend am I? It’s truly incredible how quickly life changes. I’ve learned to except the expected and go with whatever may come our way. Oh, and Ellie DID walk down the aisle. Much more on that later.